Fierce Fostering Confidential

4 years ago we welcomed our first foster child into our home. We had submitted our application that spring, gone through MAPP training an hour away so we could do weekends and take the first available classes, then waited anxiously to be called. In so many ways this did, and still does, fill me with icky feelings because in a sense I’m waiting for a family to hit rock bottom. I know lot of people have similar feelings, and it’s just the nature of fostering.

4 months from our licensing, we finally got a call during one of our home visits with our family resource worker. I’ll never forget, it was 3/2/20 that we met the sweetest kid that would change everything for us. Within 2 weeks, the world was shut down and we were home all day with a rowdy and fun kindergartener. My husband was allowed to stay home for a while since his library closed and I started working from home. What a time. I wouldn’t change a thing.

Our journey has been filled with highs and lows, smiles, laughs, and tears. Knowing what I do now, I would still jump back in with both feet. Whether these kids were with us for a night or years, we have made sure they’ve been remembered by us. I hope we are remembered fondly by them. A few of my teens still reach out to check in, one of the most rewarding things for me.

That said, it’s a good time to note that all names used have/will been changed or are unidentifiable nicknames to protect these kids identities. Where possible, foster child (fc) or kiddo will be used as well in lieu of gender. These kids deserve to remain anonymous and to share their story when, and if, they’re ready publicly. Some details may also be changed ( such as a school or town name) but not in a way that would misled or harm anyone involved.

I decided to start this so I could share what I’ve learned, what I’ve struggled with, and to learn from all of you as well. Parenting isn’t a one size fits all and we can all learn and grow with our kids. I hope this helps you and maybe even inspires you to start fostering if you haven’t already!